Think about it people... What do we as humans do more than any other animal that we know of in terms of relating to one another. Don't confuse that with communication because animals are plenty good at that.
We are Special.... We have developed complex languages with millions of words, sounds, accents and so forth. Why do you suppose we have all of this at our disposal where most animals just squawk or grunt with different tones?
Whatever the reason what we are left with is a very powerful tool that can change the course of life without moving anything but our jaw. This sometimes forgotten powerful thing called language and its power should be considered in our lives and how it affects those whom we share it with.
Walk up to a stranger and say "Fuck you, you cricket spitting whore bag." Good chance you will have a fight on your hands and I hope you picked a midget or something to mess with.
Walk up to the same person and say "Hi, how are you today?" You still might get your ass kicked but your chances of that happening are reduced to the person you decide to ask.
The point is, we can change the drive in another humans mind simply by saying something. Being a blog on peace and cooperation I am making this helpful list to help my readers in their everyday life. Use these ten words/phrases everyday and you will make a positive impact on those around you, I guarantee it!!!
Without further ado..
10. Please/Thank you - When asking a favor, service, or item from another it should always be followed by "please." The word please is powerful in the since that it shows vulnerability to the other person. By doing this you show an understanding of the benefit you receive from whatever the other person has of use to you. This also shows respect value for whatever the other person has. Assuming your goal is obtained it should promptly be followed by a "thank you." This once again fortifies your vulnerability and respect and will help you in future requests to that person.
9. Your Welcome - Fitting to follow the above statement, "your welcome" should be said from the stand point of someone fulfilling a favor to someone. Similar in reason to the above phrases this phrase shows vulnerability and respect. The point between a request and fulfillment of it between two people is to have a neutral point of vulnerability and respect. This allows for a tension free exchange and an advancement in the positive energy in life.
8. How are you? - This is a great and easy one to use. Allowing the question "How are you" into your life will brighten the lives of many around you. People love to feel cared for, and what a better way to help their day by asking how they are. When you ask this you are showing them that you have time in your life to stop living it and ask how theirs is. By committing this sacrifice of time you show them they are cared for and believe it or not this can have an extreme affect on others. I'm sure this phrase by itself has stopped suicides or attempted suicides at least. Think about when you are down. How good does it feel when someone takes time to ask you how you are feeling. Don't lie, you know it feels good!
7. How may I help you? - Use this phrase, but also be prepared to act on it. Some people might need your help and asking this will be an open invitation for them to call you out on it. This is a very important step in the human race. Learning how to help each other, even strangers. Use this phrase often. When someone at work is confused... ask if you can assist them. See an elderly person struggling to lift something? get your ass over there and ask how you can help them. Refuse the dollar tip asshole. You are doing this for mankind not your own well being. The key is to be open and willing to sacrifice your time for anothers benefit. More often than not, your time will be rewarded in some way or another. Get out there and start helping.
6. I'm sorry - Yeah its a hard one for all you macho men but it is a wonderful thing when used correctly. If you fuck up, apologize. A real man/woman/person knows when they are wrong and is not afraid to admit it. Period.
5. How's your day going - Similar to "how are you?" but more directed to co-workers. This allows you to develop a even plane with your fellow workers and create some light conversation. It feels good to take a minute and talk about your day. Especially if its a long hard one. Embrace someone and invite their workday into your life.
4. Good Job - This is something all to forgotten by people. Most of the time when someone completes a task they, in some way, feel unsure of its view from the eyes of others. Telling someone that they have done something in a good way helps reassure their efforts and bring comfort into their head. Only use the phrase when you mean it. Lying never helps
3. Good Morning/Night - One of the ultimate things to say. Let someone else know that you see them and recognize their presence at 6 in the morning. The suns not out, but they are. Let them know that they are alive again. At night, wishing someone a pleasant evening helps them wind down and relax. It helps set in the fact that another evening is coming and you get to come to the comfort of home and family/friends.
2. I love you - Obviously not to everyone in your life, but to your significant other, family, close friends this can be an awesome thing. Love in general is awesome. I don't need to explain this one. Spread the love.
1. Hi/Hello - Even if someone is completely foreign chances are they know "hi." You can say this to anyone and everyone. Make eye contact with someone for more than a second? say hello, why not? Acknowledging anothers presence helps to bridge the gap in human communication. Sounds like way to simple of a word, but its not. Would you feel better if someone walked into the room your in, stared at you for 4 seconds, turned and walked away. How would you feel if the same person walked in, made eye contact, flashed a warm smile, said "hello" than walked away. You may never see that person again, but thanks to the split second it takes to say hello their is a certain level of comfort achieved from the interaction of two beings than in the absence of any communication at all.
Remember folks, we are blessed with a very powerful tool. Use it wisely. With great power comes great responsibility. It is easy to hurt with words. Make sure you are positive to others... everyday. See if those around you don't become infected with the positive vibes.
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